God is always right on time
- Written by Nancy Williams, LPC
It's exciting when dreams and plans become realities, isn't it? The satisfaction of completion and the joy of achieving goals. If you can relate, then you'll understand why I'm excited to announce the release of my new project. It's a book for parents of grown children titled "Secrets to Parenting Your Adult Child." Certainly, I would like to tell you all about the book, but this is not intended to be an advertisement. Instead, I want to share a bit about the process and a fresh lesson God taught me along the way. A few years ago, I drafted a book proposal with this focus. Something to help parents understand the changes and challenges for themselves and their children. I explored possible interest in the Christian market and soon a company began talking with me about publishing the book. I had asked God to guide this process if it was what He wanted, so I assumed we were on target with His plans. Then the door closed, leaving me asking, "God, what happened?" I set the project aside and pursued other things. New doors opened and I thought I was once again on the way to book publication. Then those doors closed and God and I had that conversation again, "God, I thought this was your plan. What's going on?" I was writing in several venues and hearing encouraging words from others so I thought I was on track. But the book contract didn't come and I questioned if God really wanted me to write at all. Perhaps He had something else in mind. Maybe it was my desire and not His for me. I have no doubt God loves me and knows what is best for me, so I would remind myself of that in the midst of my disappointment. When I would let discouragement creep in and consider setting aside a desire of my heart, God seemed to give me a nudge, telling me to not give up and to wait on Him. A call from a friend. A note from a reader. A scripture I'd read in the Bible. Encouragement to cling to as I pressed on. Doors for a book were not opening and yet the passion remained. So, I continued to set the project before Him while I turned my attention to the opportunities I did have to share those words of insight and encouragement with parents. Then a series of major changes occurred for our family and I found myself in a brand-new season of life. And, at a totally unexpected time and place, it came—a request from a publishing house to partner together on a book for parents of adult children. I quickly realized God kept fueling my desire because He did want to use me to do the very thing I longed to do. It was a matter of timing—His timing. And His timing is always perfect. While I was waiting, God was preparing me with new life experiences, new perspectives, new understanding of Him, and new connections with others. And He wove all those together in a way that far exceeded what I had envisioned. Isn't that just like Him? He knows what He wants to accomplish in and through us, but we must learn to draw close to Him, listen to Him, commit the desires of our heart to Him, and then wait on Him with trust and expectancy as He works in our lives according to His plans. And while we may not understand what He's doing, His plans are always for our good. This experience gave me a fresh reminder of a promise that has often served as a guiding light for me. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6, New International Version of The Bible). Now that the book is making its way into bookstores and on-line, I pray it will be first a pleasing offering to God and second, a helpful tool for parents of adult children. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for the days ahead—in His time. Nancy Williams, LPC, maintains a counseling, life coaching, and consulting practice and is the author of Secrets to Parenting Your Adult Child. Send questions or comments to her at www.nancywilliams.net.